Surrounding myself with people who are positive and happy makes me feel the same. Many friends of mine, as well as people who meet me for the first time often ask me “where do you find all this energy and motivation?” Well, as I told you in this post I believe there are people who are “naturally” more positive than others, and I consider myself lucky to be one of those people. The truth is though… this positive energy is not always there.
I have already revealed you, in this post, one of my secrets about how I take courage in a scary situation! I often use the same technique to motivate myself when I’m about to approach something I’m not really sure I’m able to accomplish.
What if the situation is way bigger though, what if you have totally lost your motivation and you have to re-start from zero?
It happens. And that’s okay and totally normal!
HOW to break out from this moment is the real issue.
I’ll share with you my experience as an example. As I told you before (here ) , until a couple of years ago I was really into singing, I went to music school 2/3 times per week, had a band, attended many singing competitions and festivals. Then high school ended and it was finally time to make my life-dream come true: moving and studying abroad. I won’t annoy you again with all my thoughts and feelings related to that period, it’s not what my point is right not (but if you’re curious to know I explained everything in this post).
By making that decision I knew that the singing part of my life would have been moved to the background, since the choice I took was to focus on completing my 3-years-bachelor degree. “But why didn’t you continue singing?” many of you would ask. Well, I did, in my room or when I went back home in Italy, but due to the special uni program I chose, where I changed country every 9 months, it’s not easy to actually build something like a band or duo each time, it takes a lot of time.
After this long digression, it is necessary for me to explain the situation. What I found myself facing the feeling that my voice was not the same: less powerful, precise, and I was missing the control I once had. Of course our voice and vocal chords, as many other parts of our bodies, are muscles, and if not trained can’t give the same results as before. This was exactly my case: I passed from training my voice daily to practically not using it at all. I definitely couldn’t pretend to have my (what I call) “real voice” back after one day, but yes…it sucks… especially feeling that all your past work is not there anymore.
So what to do?
1. Look at the reason why
Why are you finding yourself unmotivated? Try to make a list of possibile reasons.
In my case:
The reason why I had this regression on my voice was because I focused on other aspects of my life, which I was actually happy about. I definitely do not regret taking those decision.
2. Is it an irreparable thing that I am unhappy about?
Can you actually do something to improve this situation, maybe by fixing some of the reasons why you’re feeling like this.
In my case:
Of course I could have fixed the situation, it was about training and taking it slowly. I was sure that setting up a schedule with exercises would have helped, and like everything in life, when you start improving you get more motivated to continue.
3. Would this help me feeling better and regain self-confidence?
By fixing these reasons, would you feel more confident and motivated?
In my case:
Yes, indeed! Not that I pretend to have the lifestyle I had before, but just by re-gaining the voice agility that I had would definitely make me more confident.
So, what are you waiting for?
Okay,it has been quite a long post, kind od a public self-examination feelings but the point is maybe the beauty of not being motivated anymore is actually finding a new way to be motivated again.
What about you, did you ever find yourself in this situation? Which have been your techniques to get back on track and feeling self confident again? I would love to hear from you!