The stairs moment

When something makes you feel good, it’s like if you’ve found your true self.

Nothing compares to the moment in which you’re totally happy and proud of what you’re doing. Especially when you know how hard you’ve worked for it and how many barriers you overcame before feeling completely sure of yourself.

Singing is this for me. Being myself. Being happy with myself.

Performing on stage, or simply singing in front of a friend at home, is like a little reminder to myself:” Hey, look how far you’ve come, up until a couple of years ago you wouldn’t even have had the courage to say you were taking singing classes…and look at you now!”

I finally realised that sharing a talent you’re so lucky to have is one of the most beautiful feelings.

But singing is not just the performance itself.

Singing is training a lot, doing hundred of annoying vocal exercises that you’re going to hate after repeating 6 times.

It’s doing weird sounds with your voice as a warm up with everyone around you thinking you’re actually burping.

It’s being under pressure and being able to handle it without showing it. It’s about listening to your body, what if you have a concert and in that exact day an awful throat pain hits you?

It’s about being confident about yourself in front of people who are there watching and listening to you.

It’s about doing your best in just that one song or hour of performance.

Handling all this is not that easy, there are moments in which you want to give up and maybe you don’t even see the point in keep going.

But there’s a moment, a moment in which you realise that everything is totally worth it and reminds you why you’re doing it.

The stairs moment.

I call it like this because it often happens that when I finished my performance I have to walk down the stairs to get off the stage. But anyway, either on stage or at home… it’s that moment in which I have just sang, and all the pressure falls apart and I am actually proud of myself.

Singing itself is already a kind of surreal feeling because you totally delete everything from your mind and devote all of your attention to the music and your voice.

So that “stairs moment”, it’s like closing a circle.

Of course, there are times (many times!) in which I am not happy about my performance, maybe because something went wrong and I didn’t enjoy it completely, but actually that having these moments make you appreciate your successes even more.

Now, let’s reverse this stairs moment in your routine. 

I call it stairs moment but this feeling can be placed in any kind of activity! For example, when crafting, holding your final work or seeing that what you first had in mind is actually realized, it’s a total gratification.

Maybe you’ve studied very hard for an exam and you’re now proudly looking at that amazing grade you take.

Have you ever thought that all these proud moments can serve more than just the moment itself. They are important reminders that can act as the best way to reanimate our motivation and increase our self-confidence.

Next time you’re working on a project and want to give up, think about that time you saw your final work appreciated, how did you feel?

Next time you’re studying and want to close that book think about that time you got an amazing grade, how did you feel?

Visualise it. Visualise that feeling. It’s good, right?

Keep that feeling as fuel and keep going with what your doing, another satisfaction is around the corner!

Oh, and you know what’s the other secret? No one can actually live it or create it for you, this feeling doesn’t depend on anyone except you!

Isn’t it beautiful to know this:

The best motivation comes from ourselves.


What about you? In which activity you feel like walking down the stairs? I would love hearing from you! 

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  • Reply Tina

    This is such a great way to describe it! I’ve never really thought properly about that feeling, but have definitely had it and think I will be more aware of it next time now x

    17/05/2016 at 14:47
    • Reply fromdreamtoplan

      I’m glad you can relate!! Thank you for reading and for the lovely comment! 🙂

      17/05/2016 at 14:56
  • Reply Lisa Lo Paro

    Beautiful! Love this post.

    17/05/2016 at 16:59
  • Reply Angie

    Nice analogy. For me, it’s finishing up my current novel and actually liking it, then getting it edited and published. It’s a long road ahead of me. I won’t see that stairs moment for a while!

    17/05/2016 at 17:01
    • Reply fromdreamtoplan

      Well but even the journey is a full immersion of emotions and eventually you’ll get there! 😉 Thank you for reading and commenting! 🙂

      17/05/2016 at 18:34
      • Reply Angie

        Yes, true. I’ve been working on my writing for 10 years now and it’s been quite the emotional journey. 🙂

        17/05/2016 at 18:35
        • Reply fromdreamtoplan

          Wow!! so think about the moment you will actually hold your work in your hands! Nothing compares!

          17/05/2016 at 18:43
          • Angie

            Yes. I’m SO looking forward to that moment!

            17/05/2016 at 18:45
          • fromdreamtoplan

            It will be amazing! 🙂 🙂

            17/05/2016 at 18:47
          • Angie

            I imagine it will be! 🙂

            17/05/2016 at 18:48
  • Reply A Kinder Way

    Hello! Lovely post. I shared it in my Posts of Note today.

    18/05/2016 at 23:03
  • Reply Amy W

    I love that you call it ‘The Stairs Moment’! I used to do drama when I was younger and I definitely remember that feeling of pure elation when you’ve just finished your performance!

    Amy x

    19/05/2016 at 15:49
    • Reply fromdreamtoplan

      Oh I’m happy you can relate Amy! Thank you for reading and commenting! 🙂

      19/05/2016 at 15:53
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    I could not resist commenting. Perfectly written!

    19/08/2016 at 21:40
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